January 26, 2012
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Two Questions
1.How do you define Friendship?
2.How do you define Friendship on Xanga?
If you are reading this post, whether you’re a subscriber to me or not, I would like to know your answer to these two questions.
1.How do you define Friendship?
2.How do you define Friendship on Xanga?
If you are reading this post, whether you’re a subscriber to me or not, I would like to know your answer to these two questions.
Comments (22)
1) Someone you keep in touch with, care for, treat like you’d want yourself to be treated.
2) Probably say the same as #1 but to a much lesser degree.
I’d expect my friends off Xanga to bail me out of jail if I ended up there. I’d expect friends on Xanga to just not tell me I’m helplessly stupid if I chose to blog about it…not that if happened, but if it were to happen.
Friendship-A close personal relationship with another human being without sexual relations.
Friendship on Xanga-A personal relationship that is strictly based on online communication. I personally believe an online friendship could be just as strong as one offline.
Friendship: A mutual caring and trust.
Online friendship: The same, though I will say a bit more about it because online friendships can be tricky. I have been at this blogging thing for about three years. In that time, I have made some great friends and a vast number of acquaintances. My e-friends know, without question, that they can trust me not to break their confidence. They also know that if that confidence being broken could save their lives, that would trump my silence. Only a handful of my e-quaintances have translated over to RL friends having access to me via email, phone, or FB. It takes a very long time and an established trust for this to happen.
I think it’s essentially the same definition of marriage, just without the sex. I think it’s being there for someone when times are good and bad. It also needs to be give and take. Love the answers above!
As for online friendships, i have really struggled with those recently. I feel judged more often and because they only read about my venting/ranting, they think i am a negative and unhappy person. My caring side does come out online, but people online don’t really know who i am. I think friendship online is much more superficial. We have a tendency to have less of a filter online, so i think friendships can be more harsh and honest, which isn’t always a good thing.
@bambii - Hopefully you don’t end up in jail. Thank you for sharing, I was kinda in a mood last night and wanted to know what people thought about friendships.
@Crying_In_Color - The way I conduct myself online is very similar to the way I conduct myself in RL. That’s the only way I feel I can offer people in either realm a genuine friendship.
@TigersLovePepper - The word ‘Mutual’ is definitely the key. I believe in a reciprocal relationship in eithe the online or real life realms.
@ShamrockLover - I don’t know you well enough to form an opinion as to whether you’re a negative/unhappy person, but going by this one response I’d say you’re a decent enough person.
. Welcome to the site btw.
Friend: Someone, outside your family, who you get along with and choose freely to spend time with. While you enjoy spending fun and carefree times with the person, the measure of a TRUE friend is someone you can turn to in times of emotional crisis and.or in need of guidance and/or support.
Xanga Friend: A person who you more than likely share similiar views and interest and as a result you enjoy their riding style and their content. Its somebody you feel comfortable and easily able to converse with…well on most topics. But I guess that also depends on the Xanga Friend…with some you share less and with some, you share more.
@Cassie@datingish - “with some you share less and with some, you share more.” Very well put. Welcome to the site.
Thanks!. Breaking out of my lil Datingish niche and seeing what the world of Xangians have to offer. Its been pretty positive so far. I’ve found so interesting and insightful characters on here haha.
hhmmmm, usually friendships on here are people that I spend the most time with not just here, but on facebook, or IRL… For instance, I KNOW a few xangans IRL… I have also MET a few xangans IRL… All were nice experiences.
If it’s someone that I feel I can talk to, open up to a little, I’d probably consider them an “online” friend.
There are quite a few people I wish I could take to me, and hold close… for a long, long time. Until then… I can only imagine…
@LKJSlain - You have a TON of friends lol. I’ve seen your profile page. I’m sure there are some people on here that are worth meeting. Me? I might consider it one day, but my social anxiety disorder means that right now I’m kinda like “ummmm, not so much”. lol
So for now everyone for me is an ‘online’ friend. I open up a little on their blogs, I open up a little more on mine(which they see if they visit of course), but that’s about it I guess.
@Shadowrunner81 - Too bad you don’t know me and my husband IRL…
We’re like… the most LAID BACK people IRL imagineable. It’s like, “Dude, you wanna go do something? Great… Dude, you wanna come over, watch a movie with us, eat our food and say not a whole lot? GREAT!”
We’re just people “people”
@LKJSlain - Yeah I would say ‘laid back’ pretty much describes me to a T.
1) A friend to me is someone you can talk to (without being judged), refer to for guidance and use for support.
2. a Xanga friend is one that follows you through your virtual life, comments and provides that virtual friendship, even if you have never met that person live.
@bluemoonsundaes - I read on your page that you have a lot of blogs. Do you find yourself acting differently in the blogosphere as compared to real life? For me, as I said above a little ways, I try to act the same in either place(though that doesn’t mean I give away the farm on here).
@Shadowrunner81 - No I would say I’m the same online as in person
Just noticed delerium
@crashthedr3am - Yeah I have Karma and Semantic Spaces. You’re a fan?
Huge… I love Silence, Underwater, Heavens Earth Duende, oh hell I love Karma. I am totally the only one in jersey I know who loves delerium
@crashthedr3am - I have an amazing version of the song Heaven’s Earth from the Chimera album(I think…not sure). It has more of a trance feel to it. Love that song.
1. Friendship is supporting, loving, and accepting one another.
2. Friendship on Xanga is keeping up on each other’s lives, commenting, and supporting.
@weirdgirl017 - Very well put and welcome to the site!
@Shadowrunner81 - Thanks