February 14, 2012
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Attraction
I thought I would share what I think is the most attractive thing I have ever seen.
It took place on a dating game type of show. It wasn’t blind date, but it was something along those lines. I can’t remember as this was about seven years ago. The format of the show was that a guy or girl would go on a date with three guys or girls and over the course of the different scenes would whittle the three down to one, which they would take home for the night.
So I used to watch this show to get an idea of what to do and what not to do on a date. At the time I thought I was getting some great ‘advice’ through the show, but now I just think they were all trying to appear ‘cool’ on camera and none of what I saw was genuine. There was one single moment though that I do think was completely genuine and I still consider that moment to be the most attractive thing I have ever seen.
A guy was on a date with three girls and at the time they were all in a pool. The guy was relaxing with his elbows up on the side of the pool and the three girls were at various positions around him while they talked. One girl was to his left leaning back against the edge. While the four of them were talking about whoknowswhat the guy, with his right hand, reached over his left shoulder to grab at his drink that was sitting on the edge of the pool. He wasn’t paying attention to the drink, he was just reaching for it, but it was just out of his reach. If you looked close you could see his fingers moving around trying to find it. The girl who was to his left saw this and took his drink and moved it a little closer and the guy’s fingers found it and he took a drink. He never looked in the direction of the drink, he never asked the girl to get it for him, so all she did was pick up on what he was doing and move the drink within his reach.
That little act is still the most attractive thing I have ever seen. I thought about what I would do if I was on that show and in that guy’s position and I maintain that it would have been this; I would have broken the contract of the show that would have had me go through the motions of whittling down the competition to just one girl and said right then and there in the pool that, “You two seem nice, but I’m taking her home.” I would have registered then and there(if I picked up on the fact that she had moved my drink closer to me) that this was a girl who could be much more than just a one night stand. She could be someone I could develop real feelings for. In a way, IRL I did because I still think about what she did for that guy. I don’t remember her name, I do remember she was wearing a nice black bikini(which always helps in my opinion) but that’s about it.
Obviously I still think about that moment. What about you? What is the most attractive thing you have ever seen? Was it what a special someone wore? Was it something someone did? This is one to fill up the comments section with so feel free to share as much as you want!
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One of the most attractive things I ever saw was from a man I never had the chance to meet. He was walking downtown and talking on a cell phone. He stopped by a parked car and plugged the meter. Less than half a block later, he did it for another car. He never let go of his phone and didn’t know anyone was watching. Anonymous acts of kindness that will never be thanked or even noticed, but I did.
@BoulderChristina - Very cool! That’s what I’m talking about. Thank you for sharing.
Interesting thing about the drink…sounds like a helpful person!
I was standing on my back porch (second story apartment) with a male friend. He looked at me and asked “Have you ever seen Romeo and Juliet?” I said No. He said “He steals a kiss on the balcony”. Then he kissed me.
I completely and totally understand this. Whenever I randomly help unbeknownst to them… or I notice others help people.. it’s something special I smile about for hours afterwards. Even if no one is there to watch me.
It’s when my uncle always picks up things for people, or makes sure people who aren’t paying attention, stay safe. Parents do it all the time for kids.
But the most attractive thing I’ll ever see is a guy laying in the middle of a rink, holding onto a glove, relying on a sliver of hope, that his love will show up with the other glove. Because he has faith that somewhere, someHER is holding the same feelings for him.
hahahaha “I don’t remember her name, I do remember she was wearing a nice black bikini(which always helps in my opinion) but that’s about it”…so guy of you!
quick question before I go on with my comment: Did the guy see the girl move the glass for him?
You are so right!…it is the litte things. well lets see: this was a guy who would say, Ill call you by noon or 1o:30 or whatever time and he’s basically call to the minute! talk about ‘like clockwork’ but I think that tops it off was when I was walking down a busy street and it started to drizzle, a man accidently bumped into me and not only did he apologize perfusely, he offered me his umbrella! Considering NYC was recently voted the rudest city in America (which I don’t necessarily agree with!), that act was saying a lot!
Once when my (now ex) boyfriend wanted to hang out with me, I told him I couldn’t because I was so stressed out with all my homework. He texted me later that day and said “Open your door then look down.” Sitting on my porch was a smoothie from Jamba Juice. It was the sweetest gesture and it’s stood out throughout all these years. He respected that I couldn’t see him, but he still brought me something to show he cares.
@bambii - Maybe that was what caught my attention? I don’t think she did it to ‘get noticed’ but she sure did…by me!
@Crying_In_Color - Smooth move!
@crashthedr3am - I feel like parents are obligated to do it for their kids. Also why I feel that later in life when the parents are getting older the kids should help out with taking care of them. And the glove thing reminds me of cinderella.
@Cassie@datingish - “Did the guy see the girl move the glass for him?” I don’t believe he did. If I remember correct he was talking to one of the other girls so he was distracted. That’s a great story about the umbrella. Did you keep it or give it back to him?
@weirdgirl017 - Sounds like a great guy there. I hope you gave him a kiss for that later in the week!
@weirdgirl017 -
That is so sweet! (the gesture)
@Shadowrunner81 - Haha you betcha!
@crashthedr3am -
Its a nice reminder that there are still wonderful people in this world.
I know this may come across as extremely old-fashioned, but the most attractive thing I see in people is when they listen to me and actually apply what I say to them, which shows me that they really were listening. I don’t know how many times I’ve told people (not just guys, anyone) “I hate it when people are late and don’t even call” and they still show up half an hour or an hour late (or not at all) and don’t call. Just as an example.
I guess I find it rather rare that someone listens, and applies. So I find it very attractive.
Thanks for changing your background, BTW. I can now actually read it!!!
It’s a little old fashioned but, since the day I met my boyfriend he’s always just been such a gentleman. It’s just the way he is, it’s just the little things he does without even thinking about it like he always comes across to my side of the truck and unlocks my door before he goes around to the drivers side. In return since day one I’ve always reached over and unlocked his side before he gets there, and it was love
What makes it so attractive is how unintentional it is.
@Moments_intime - A few of them even make it on reality tv apparently. haha
@quidam2010 - Yeah great listeners are rare. People who can listen and apply are even rarer. People who listen and apply it to you are the ones you seek a relationship with(not necessarily boyfriend/girlfriend). Glad you like the new background.
@specialxplaces - Yes that’s exactly what I was getting at with the girl on the dating show! She did it without even thinking about it. It wasn’t like she was trying to get anything out of it from the guy. She just did it as part of who she was(at least that was my perception of that moment). Sounds to me like your boyfriend could eventually end up a whole lot more.
They are pretty much the same situations when you disect them, it’s just pure consideration! Or maybe for this sexy lady in the black bikini it was an elaborate plan to get him wasted and take advantage of him, but either way it’s attractive as hell.
I’m definitely a lucky woman to have snagged this one, I tell ya
@specialxplaces - Haha….maybe it was all an elaborate plan to get herself mentioned on a blog post seven years later! I should have known she was a sneaky one.
My husband and I were friends (actually we hated each other at first) before we started dating. He was helping me out with my failing horribly relationship with my ex. I remember that he took me to the park to talk and then he hugs me… for a really long time. That’s when I wondered if I could have a relationship with this guy… and I won’t tell the cheesy line I told him. He still reminds me of that when he wants to get back at me for something. =P
That’s lovely!
You know, that is a nice moment!
Yeah, I hear ya on this. She’d be an instant win.
@hesacontradiction - Aw come on. Tell the cheesy line!
@Miststueck - She was lovely. At least to me.
@lucylwrites - And the thing was, it was just a ‘moment’. If I hadn’t been looking at the corner of the screen where she was I wouldn’t have even seen it.
@AgainstTheWind1 - From on goateed guy to another…thanks and welcome to the site.
@Shadowrunner81 - ….sometimes friends make the best lovers. (so ashamed!) =P
I don’t know if I have a particularly “attractive” behavior in my mind already…I’m drawn generally to guys who are genuinely good guys, but who are also very confident and secure.
But one of my favorite things a boyfriend of mine has done has been to put hand on my waist or arm slightly around me whenever we were near a street and I wandered ever so slightly close to the curb, sort of to pull me away from potential danger, even when I was clearly not going to walk into the street. It’s SO gentlemanly and made me feel like I was so precious to him. :]
What I love is for a guy to boldly look at me with bedroom eyes, and a small smile on his face. Just the way he looks at me, he doesn’t have to say anything or do anything, but that one look is amazingly attractive.