April 7, 2012
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Are you the person you’d thought you’d be at this age? Why or why not?
No I’m not the person I thought I’d be at this age(30). 5 years ago I had a great job with lots of career potential for a large university and I thought I’d be retiring by age 49 and moving into a great big house sometime soon in Victorian Village. None of that has come to pass. But, I’m happier today than I was then, and the trials I’ve been through over the past five years have provided me with what I hope is a positive perspective on things. So yes, I may not be cut out for the corporate world, that’s okay. Instead I’m forging ahead on my own path and doing what I can to become a writer and activist.
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Comments (22)
Wow! It’s amazing how things change in 5 years huh? I’m glad you’re happier now and I wish you the best in your writing and being an activist. Very neat, my friend!
My experiences in the last 5 years have been similar, and I too am happier than I was back then!!!
@Megabyyte - Yeah and the last five years took forever to go by. You know? Now that I’m 30 time seems to be flying by. Before I know it…..I’m gonna be 40!!! Now I’m all worried….
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@lonelywanderer2 - It’s always a good thing when you are happier today than you were in the past. Welcome to the site.
idk lOl i didnt think of it much
im just happy 2 have lived long enough 2 know better lOlOlOlOl
yep
thats why we go through life experiences and stuff 
@Cute_CMG_25 - I firmly believe that wisdom can come at any age, but will always come at a price. Not saying you have to disclose what your price was, but I know mine and, in the end, it was worth it.
I’m less than I dreamed…but more than I ever thought i WOULD be.
I’ve done things I never thought I had the courage to do.
I’ve had one major dream (my book) come true…so that’s a biggie.
But when I was young, I never “dreamed” of being a mom…the thought scared me.
When i did decide to have a child, it seemed like a major deal…and it really WAS.
Yet 20 years later? I can’t imagine my life without my daughter.
I’ve been elected to a local board.
I’ve lobbied in DC for Special Needs kids.
I’ve chased down senators, and used a cane doing it.
Am I who I wanted to be?
Nope.
I’m a helluva lot more.
I don’t know. I just know that I am happier now than I ever have been and I’m going after my dream.
I think it is important for us to be able to give up on things that we later find out weren’t really good for us or what we wanted. Otherwise you hold onto things just because you can’t admit you were wrong, and you do not allow yourself to grow!
Im having a sense of Deja Vu..I felt lik Ive commented on a similiar entry of yours before for some reson, but oh, well. ill cpmment anyway lol. I definitrly am not where I thought id be by 25 (a few months away)…but m okay with that bc when you’re younger (especially like between the ages of 8 to about 14), your concept of age and aging is skewed. I remember when I thought 50 was ancient and that meant you practically had a foot in the grave but now I know better…My parents are in their fifties and thank God are alive and vibrant! I thought I’d be this big shot business woman with loads of money and living in the city, maybe even with a fiance. well I live in the city… sorta lol, and I believe in on my way to being financially set, but certain things are out of my control and only time will tell. and now, I couldnt possibly imgaine being married or engaed..I have a lot more of my ducks to get into order before Id feel thats a step I should take. 25..especilly for a woman is a pivotal point.. youre entering the mid 20s and a lor of people start to reassess their personal and professional lives and even one is in a scurry to get it right!
I’m definitely not.
I’m not where I’d be from five years ago either. But I’m happier too.
*hugs*
@galadrial - I really wish my site would let me recommend comments. If it did, I would rec yours. “I’m a helluva lot more.” That is a great thing to see. Oh, and a major congrats to you on getting your book published. There are tons of writers here on Xanga(including me) who would love to have that dream fulfilled.
@Shining_Garnet - Perhaps, in the end, that’s all that matters.
@AmyDoo - I think each new life experience, good or bad, allows us to grow and gain more wisdom. Sorta like a snake shedding its’ skin. Thanks for stopping by.
@Cassie@datingish - I answered a featured question before so that may be where the Deja Vu is coming from? Anyways a lot of people assess and reassess their lives in their mid 20′s. Get ready to do it again when you’re 30 and 40, and beyond!
@BoulderChristina - In what way?
@firetyger - Awesome! See my comment to shining garnet.
I thought I would have saved the world by now, I thought I would have fewer questions about life now, and I thought that I would be old and settled by now. Obviously, none of the above happened for me
I’m glad you are happy with where yo u are right now. I would never have dreamed five years ago that I’d be where I am now. Both for the negative and the positive. I think if I had an inkling, I would have done a lot of things very differently.
@lucylwrites - Hey now, no thoughts about regrets. If you hadn’t made the choices you did you wouldn’t be the person you are today.