October 17, 2012
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Update
I have been more than a little upset over some things over the past week. Some involve Xanga, some don’t.
1. Politics – My mother listens to some very conservative radio jockeys and their mass hysteria over even the possibility of President Obama getting reelected has poisoned my mother and turned her into Chicken Little. “If President Obama is in the white house for another four years…the sky will fall.” For the past few months I have been able to ignore her and did my best to think rationally and reassure myself that I had good reasons to support the president. But she is still under the belief that I am an independent and can be swayed (as she puts it). The truth is that I am proud of my ability to be swayed. It means I’m not locked into my views and am open to new possibilities. But with each passing debate she is getting worse and worse. Debate number 1 result: The sky is falling! Debate number 2(VP) result: The sky is falling! Debate number 3 last night: The sky is falling! It gets so tedious that I wish I was still on my own. But the guys on the radio and her fear have caused me to seriously rethink what I am going to do this election. I want Obama to win, but I no longer believe I can vote for him. I value my relationship with my mother too much to vote for someone she fears so much. This dissonance has been eating away at me ever since the debates started. Do I vote for Romney instead? Up until yesterday that was what I was planning to do. Just suck it up and vote for Romney and hope the final tally in Ohio comes down to more than one vote. This decision caused me great distress. But now I have found a new tactic. My number one issue has always been the environment. Romney mocked environmentalists during his acceptance speech at the RNC. So I will not vote for him. Obama can’t get anything through congress (though he did stop that Keystone Pipeline), but it isn’t nearly enough to fix what has been broken over the last 150 years. So between his lackluster efforts and Romney’s ignorance, I will not vote for either of them. Instead I will vote for Jill Stein, the Green Party nominee. I agree with her on approximately 94-96% of her views, and the only reason she isn’t considered a viable candidate is because the radio conservatives and television liberals are mired in a two-party system and won’t give anyone else airtime. So here’s what I can do to preserve my relationship with my mother. I won’t vote for Obama, which will make her happy. I can tell her I didn’t support him if he gets re-elected which will make her happy. And I don’t have to compromise my principles by voting for Romney and instead vote for Jill Stein. Make sense? It’s not ideal, but I care about my Mom and don’t want her to be afraid of another four years.
2. And then I made a decision the other day that will change the course of my life. All I will say about it is that the ultimate sacrifice is not death, but giving up the chance to be happy.
3. And then there is @rulerofmasons comment the other day on Nadia’s blog that just deeply offended me. I’ve dated a pair of girls who have been raped either before or during my time with them. His callous comment is unacceptable even for the internet. I spent the entire night furious, but also hurting because old memories of old girlfriends and the pain they went through before (and while) I was with them resurfaced. It didn’t help that theodan made his jackass post about how to get away with rape. It takes a lot to make me mad, but those two did. A word to the wise, if someone you love ever tells you that they have rape in their history, don’t make some snarky comment. You tell them you don’t see them any different and give them whatever they need to heal. For me with my friend Nadia, this meant calling out @rulerofmasons on her blog for being the insensitive idiot he typically is on this site.
4. So with all of this going on right now, I have decided to take advantage of my upcoming trip down to my Father’s house and take a break from Xanga. I will be around, just not on my Shadowrunner account unless something really pulls me online. Those of you whom I consider friends know who you are. I hope you all have a good weekend while I am gone. I will be on later today, tomorrow, and Friday morning, but that will be it until sometime on Monday.
Comments (11)
Why do you share political opinions with your mother? That seems silly and a good wedge driver…
*sigh* Political differences within close relatives are always hard to endure, best of lucks and lots of patience Dear <3
I’m so very sorry that Mario’s comment had such a negative impact and I apologize for it. I really don’t know how to explain this but he really meant no harm, we talk on regular basis cuz he’s my friend but his xanga character happens to be an asshole and you have no idea how much i regret his comment had hurt you.
I know he’s offensive too a lot of people and I wish I could do something about it but it’s not in my hands to change how he is towards others…if is any consolation, please know that he doesn’t hurt me (much) nad that I have good reasons for keeping him close, maybe not rational reasons but still.
I’m so deeply sorry for it.
@Thatslifekid - I share political opinions with my mother because she’s my mother and I want to know how she feels about things and she wants to know how I feel about things. It’s not silly, it’s probably pretty common.
@xXxlovelylollipop - You don’t have to apologize. You are not in the wrong. What do you mean by ‘character’? Does he actually know better but is an actor or something?
@Shadowrunner81 - I mean he is very sweet and kind most of the time if you get to know him, I even let him talk to my daughter cuz he’s that sweet, really. I think he just feels rejected by the xangans and that’s why he acts like that, but it’s all because he thinks he can’t hurt yall cuz you don’t care about him
I feel terrible when he hurts someone else than me.
Wow, Dan!
#1- I think that makes sense and I’m glad you were able to decide something that would benefit both of you, though I can understand your frustration!
#2- *hugs*
#3- I think it’s great you stood up to that. I don’t care if someone is just “joking” around. It was very rude and very uncalled for. Rape isn’t a joke.
#4- I don’t blame you, though I will miss you.
But I do hope you enjoy yourself on trip. You deserve that! Sometimes, a break is necessary! I’ll be thinking about you, Dan!
The world is doing and reacting to some very strange ideas. I suppose it’s to be expected since our population is over 7 billion now. Dr. Phil made the comment that the world is overcrowded and behaviors are strained. It’s hard trying to find a quite little corner to be happy in.
@hesacontradiction - I agree with you 100% What I don’t understand is why we allowed our population to increase so much?
@RulerofMasons - Some cultures, it’s because they can’t afford birthcontrol and abortion is off limits. Others, they are pro-life. Others, don’t think birthcontrol should be accessible by means of health insurnace. I could go on… sadly, 3.3 billion people are living in poverty without shelter or food and some couldn’t give a rats ass about them. I really think the populatin will deplete either with cancer or a mutated virus. The earth is a self built stabilizing machine as learned in science. Sadly, no one believes me.
@hesacontradiction - Well a mutated virus could kill everyone off, and cancer already exists. But, I think I understand where your logic is. It’s, that someway somehow, the population will decrease.
I hope you ended up voting for Obama. That’s what I would have done haha.
“The truth is that I am proud of my ability to be swayed. It means I’m not locked into my views and am open to new possibilities.” That’s a very good attitude, I think.